The holidays can be a challenging time for many, but having ADHD can bring special challenges. The seemingly never ending to-do list and desire for the perfect holiday season, can leave you feeling overwhelmed. The good news in there is hope and help in managing your ADHD during this busy time. As you read through this article from Psychology Today, consider your strategies for coping. Are acceptance, planning, prioritizing, being practical, and nurturing part of your ADHD toolbox? If you feel you need additional support, please give me a call to schedule an appointment.
I have become a devoted student of Sue Johnson and Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples and individuals. 2016 was devoted to six extensive trainings in Atlanta and Greensboro where I was trained by clinical experts and studied alongside dedicated, serious clinical therapists in SC, GA and NC. All in the name of attachment. You see, the foundation of EFT centers around the primal longing for attachment. What drives our emotions–our love, our passion, our anger, our pain–is the constant search for a secure attachment with others–in most cases our marital partner. EFT has changed my couples work–I’ve seen marriages come alive and safety and security deepen in session after session, including the first one.
Lots of our clients are working on forgiving their partner’s affairs. Is there really anything much harder? Moving forward can feel like all your pain and “victimization” is being forgotten…or at the least, marginalized. Not moving forward (ie being hurt, enraged, tearful all or most of the time) is never a good option anyway, is it? Giving in to those reactions day after day feels out of control, stuck, and like misery. For those who really don’t want to divorce, the next steps are brilliantly vague and murky. Light is needed in the corners of each day. “He or she is acting like nothing happened…I want to, too…but I’m not ready to let it go.” Don’t despair: primarily because you are not alone. And it is a really cool thing to resist divorce. A marriage that rises from the ashes can be the strongest one ever. The Huffington Post article posted below is a good one containing simple points to remember and keep you going when you are slogging through this really tight spot.