Lots of our clients are working on forgiving their partner\u2019s affairs. Is there really anything much harder? Moving forward can feel like all your pain and \u201cvictimization\u201d is being forgotten\u2026or at the least, marginalized. Not moving forward (ie being hurt, enraged, tearful all or most of the time) is never a good option anyway, is it? Giving in to those reactions day after day feels out of control, stuck, and like misery. For those who really don\u2019t want to divorce, the next steps are brilliantly vague and murky. Light is needed in the corners of each day. \u201cHe or she is acting like nothing happened\u2026I want to, too\u2026but I\u2019m not ready to let it go.\u201d Don\u2019t despair: primarily because you are not alone. And it is a really cool thing to resist divorce. A marriage that rises from the ashes can be the strongest one ever. The Huffington Post article posted below is a good one containing simple points to remember and keep you going when you are slogging through this really tight spot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n